Heat the avocado oil in a large skillet over medium-high heat and add the onion. Sauté, stirring occasionally, until the onion begins to brown, about 5 minutes. Stir in the mushrooms and garlic, sprinkle with sea salt, and cover the skillet. Cook, stirring occasionally, until the mushrooms have softened and are deeply brown, about 5 to 8 minutes. Stir in the coconut milk, lemon juice, and Italian seasoning and bring to a full boil. Stir in the tapioca flour (or gluten-free flour) and continue cooking, stirring regularly, until the sauce is thick, about 5 minutes.